Monday, February 09, 2015

50 Shades of Whitewash

"Your desire will be for your man and he will rule over you" (Gen 3:16)

These words summarise the brokenness in sexuality and male-female relations that follows the arrival of sin in the world. They aren't something to be celebrated, or repackaged as arousing and fun, or sold at the cinema or the bookstall for profit, they are to be mourned. 

Love is fully love when it lays down its life for the other person. That's why marriage is not a contract, signing up to do x in return for y, but a covenant, a solemn, mutual, unconditional lifelong promise. Call me old fashioned, but it's the only context where lovemaking makes sense. To give your body without giving your heart, mind, soul and strength is to fracture our sexuality from the rest of us.  


  1. Agreed. But, sometimes people change and marriage instead of a life long, loving commitment and covenant becomes hell on earth. Perseverance and understanding is so important in any union, and as you get older, sex becomes less important than the friendship and mutual comfort that derives from a lifetime commitment. Having reached that stage with my spouse, I wan't nothing more than to be with her for all of my days.

  2. I take it that you are referring to '50 Shades of Grey'?

  3. Speaking from experience, staying in an abusive marriage endangers life and leads to serious mental problems for partner and children. Nobody enters into a partnership hoping it goes wrong. It's every person's right to be treated decently. The peace you achieve when the misery stops is amazing.

    1. I really can't get my head round how 50 shades repackages abuse as something that women should aspire to, and releasing the movie on Valentines Day simply beggars belief.

  4. I totally agree. Sado masochism is perverted and goes against the norm. The film has been made to create big bucks that's all! It has no beauty or romance.